“My wife has inspired me to no end with her commitment to both a natural birth and home birth on her terms." - Jared Yellin

I want to begin by stating…

PLEASE do not be offended by this article because I know it focuses on a sensitive topic (pregnancy and birth) and I am by no means judging your decision to do birth YOUR way.

I believe there is NOTHING more profound than a woman carrying a baby and then delivering it – however she sees fit.

I have the deepest level of respect for women who are able and willing to commit to this absolute magical experience.

That being said…

My wife has deeply inspired me, yet again, because on February 2, 2025 she gave birth to our 4th child – all of which were done naturally with no epidural AND the first two were in birthing centers and the next two were at home.

I don’t want YOU to tune out the meaning of this message because maybe your birth did not go the way you had hoped for and by me saying my wife had 4 all-natural births the way she wanted means I am judging you for however your birth unfolded.

I am NOT and never will.

And I also understand that there are unforeseen circumstances that could emerge and lead to dramatic changes regarding your birthing plan.

I am not insensitive to this at all and yet – there is such a valuable lesson for all of us that my wife SHOWED me and now I am sharing with you.

SO…stay in the pocket with me and open your mind to learning the five ways to ensure you achieve your desired outcome – in pregnancy, in relationships, in business, and in all aspects of your life.

5 Things My Wife Has Done To Ensure She Achieves Her Ideal Outcome

1. Eliminate The Doubters

Whether you are committing to a home-birth, launching a new business, committing to marriage, moving to a different state, or any big decision you are going to make…

ELIMINATE those who choose to DOUBT you because of their own limiting beliefs.

When I say ELIMINATE – I don’t mean make it acrimonious where you feel the need to announce the removal of this human from your orbit – make it subtle, make it intentional, make it happen.

When my wife would share her birthing plan with others the feedback was split…

“AMAZING, you can do this. You are such an inspiration.”
“Why would you put yourself through that and also put your child in danger?”

Instead of feeling the need to explain herself OR combat the ignorance of the second comment, she chose to eliminate the doubter because the doubt had nothing to do with HER – and everything to do with the person spewing the doubt.

The same holds true when you commit to becoming an entrepreneur…

Many will celebrate and support you…

And

Many will doubt and naysay you…

The doubt has NOTHING to do with you, your ability, your idea, your anything AND instead has EVERYTHING to do with the doubter having an unresolved desire that your commitment has triggered.

So the key is…

ELIMINATE them!

There should be ZERO space in your very protected existence for anyone other than BELIEVERS!!!!

People who root you on…

People who support your desires…

People who help you achieve your goals…

And anyone other than those people…

MUST be…

ELIMINATED to ensure you achieve your optimal outcome.

2. Live In The Vision

There is a science attached to manifesting your vision and that science is explained as the following…

LIVE IN THE VISION!

Literally picture yourself - with every descriptive detail defined - in your vision.

My wife did this wonderfully as we approached the date when your son was ready to join us officially…

Each night she put herself IN the vision…

IN the birthing tub with our three kids and myself holding her hand…

IN her bed at home minutes after our son was born naturally…

IN an environment that she feels safe and secure in with zero pressure from people she does not want to answer to…

Her vision was sooooo VIVID that it became soooo REAL months before our son was born.

The ONLY thing she knew was the OUTCOME and the same must hold true for YOU.

EVERY business I have started – I make the vision so crystallized that I am LIVING in it even before I start.

I want to know how it feels…

I want to know what I am able to do…

I want to know what I see…

I want to know who I am with…

I make the vision of the new company my current reality and that is all I ever experience – I LIVE MY VISION!

And the same MUST MUST MUST hold true for your vision…

Whether your vision is love, health, wealth, adventure, or all of the above…

Make it vivid…

Make it real…

LIVE your vision!

3. Remove All Negative Self-Talk

We are all humans - and so is my wife - so she had her moments where the words she chose to attach to her current reality were not going to propel her to achieve her outcome.

Doubt emerged…

Questioning took place…

Fear set in…

But we have a rule in the Yellin home…

NO NEGATIVE SELF TALK…PERIOD end of story!

We all take the responsibility to flip the script on our internal dialogue to ensure that it empowers our energy, action, and desires.

Individually, we are not perfect, BUT as a family we are unstoppable, because we nip it immediately when it emerges and the “guilty” party is forced to throw in the “negative self-talk towel” the moment they are made aware of the words they are using.

And guess what…

I can’t…

It’s too hard…

I don’t have what it takes…

I made the wrong decision…

I am not smart enough…

I don’t have the strength…

ETC

Has ZEROOOOOOOO space in your desired outcome.

SOOOO…

Surround yourself with aligned people…
Give them permission to call you out when your negative self-talk emerges…
Throw in the towel the moment you are made aware…

These three steps are guaranteed to catalyze you to your optimal outcome.

4. Enter A Monomincial State

I believe that your STATE (the energy you attach to your presence) is the most underrated superpower that exists in the world today.

The greatest athletes and performers have mastery over entering a monomaniacal state.

It’s how they mute the crowd, their mind, and their body.

They almost enter a place where they are completely isolated in a high stakes environment where they are able to control every move.

This probably sounds a bit woo-woo to you but take my word for it – THIS WORKS!

My wife has mastered her monomaniacal state when it comes to birth.

Her energy is unstoppable and her focus is laser sharp – nothing can distract or waiver her when she enters this state AND the same MUST hold true for you.

When you are in business mode – get in a monomaniacal state!When you are in parent mode – get in a monomaniacal state!

When you are in health mode – get in a monomaniacal state!

When you are in spouse mode – get in a monomaniacal state!

This state is a discipline and the perfect measurement of your own self-worth because people who don’t value themselves will NEVER be able to fully enter this state.

So…

Don’t question it…

Don’t call it woo woo…

Don’t deny it…

BLOCK out all distractions and go ALL IN to the state that will drive you to your ideal outcome.

5. Have No Plan B

Plan B is an absolute excuse to NOT get your PLAN A which is your desired outcome.

My wife had ONE PLAN…

Natural + Home Birth…!

If that PLAN did not work because of outside circumstances, we would have pivoted immediately, but there is ZEROOOOO benefit to having a PLAN B documented.

It just gives you the ability to NOT fully commit and in order to achieve your optimal outcome – you must be 110% committed - meaning - even more than fully.

PLAN B is a distraction…

PLAN B is an excuse…

PLAN B is for the uncommitted…

And I don’t know ANYONE who has achieved their absolute IDEAL outcome with distractions, excuses, lack of commitment…OR…A PLAN B!

Purge it…

Delete it…

Eliminate it…

Forget it…

AND….

FULLY COMMIT TO PLAN A - which is - YOUR IDEAL OUTCOME!

Now What?

Thank you for being my best friend, soul mate, rock of our home, and inspiration for my dear wife Lindsay…

What you showed our children at 3:45am on February 2nd (and for the previous 10 months), is the greatest lesson you can bestow as a parent.

It was a lesson of commitment…

It was a lesson of discipline…

It was a lesson of prioritizing what is most important…

It was a lesson of IDEAL OUTCOME!

And now that you SHOWED this lesson to our children and myself – it’s my responsibility to share it with you.

Your NOW WHAT is 100000% based on what do you want from your life!

Do you want IDEAL?

Do you want to SETTLE?

IDEAL will take more effort - initially - but lead to way less required effort in the future.

SETTLE will take very little effort - initially - but lead to way more required effort in the future.

So…

You need to PICK your effort…

Put in the effort when you are young and enjoy the fruits of your labor when you are more mature.

Don’t put in the effort when you are young and don’t enjoy any fruits of your labor when you mature because there are none.

I call this…PICK YOUR HARD!

And that is the NOW WHAT for this article and whichever you pick – I support you…I love you…I believe in you.

TOGETHER we ALWAYS achieve MORE!

Live with Intention,

Commit To An Outcome + Never Waiver